296 Marbles
Life is change. The degree that we refuse to accept this fact and resist the natural life changes, we will continue to perpetuate our own suffering. The acceptance of change can be an important factor in reducing a large measure of our self-created suffering.
Dalai Lama
I’m trying to keep flowers in the house – mini daffodils, irises, tulips, and hyacinths. I like the feeling of growth in the house: growing flowers, growing children, growing strength.
Flowers are something that lovers buy for each other and since this year is about getting over a breakup and not focusing on an exterior relationship (with anyone other than friends/family), I like the feeling of buying flowers for myself. The cut ones seem too much of a lesson in impermanence as their only redemption after they die is as compost fodder. For now, I like growing flowers. Yes, they too inevitable die but then the bulbs can be salvaged as a reminder of life’s cyclical nature. My flowers help me remember to enjoy the moment of bloom.
I purchase these little plants for a few dollars at the market and after they’ve bloomed and died, the bulbs go outside into the garden. Next year, when I see the buds emerge after a cold winter in the soil, my year of marbles will be over. Sometimes what looks like death is really just a perennial bulb waiting to sprout.
I realize that a great deal of my pain over this breakup comes from resisting the change. I imagine if I were a better life surfer that I would be able to take whatever life gives and ride the wave with more grace. Perhaps that is a goal: to have greater ease in letting go of the things that cannot be changed.
It feels good to surround yourself with things that are living. Are there ways that you can bring more life into your home? Flowers? Plants? As our worlds shift post breakup, there are often things that are hanging around us with which we no longer have a connection. Can you dispose of things that are not alive to you?
Life is change. The degree that we refuse to accept this fact and resist the natural life changes, we will continue to perpetuate our own suffering. The acceptance of change can be an important factor in reducing a large measure of our self-created suffering.
Dalai Lama
I’m trying to keep flowers in the house – mini daffodils, irises, tulips, and hyacinths. I like the feeling of growth in the house: growing flowers, growing children, growing strength.
Flowers are something that lovers buy for each other and since this year is about getting over a breakup and not focusing on an exterior relationship (with anyone other than friends/family), I like the feeling of buying flowers for myself. The cut ones seem too much of a lesson in impermanence as their only redemption after they die is as compost fodder. For now, I like growing flowers. Yes, they too inevitable die but then the bulbs can be salvaged as a reminder of life’s cyclical nature. My flowers help me remember to enjoy the moment of bloom.
I purchase these little plants for a few dollars at the market and after they’ve bloomed and died, the bulbs go outside into the garden. Next year, when I see the buds emerge after a cold winter in the soil, my year of marbles will be over. Sometimes what looks like death is really just a perennial bulb waiting to sprout.
I realize that a great deal of my pain over this breakup comes from resisting the change. I imagine if I were a better life surfer that I would be able to take whatever life gives and ride the wave with more grace. Perhaps that is a goal: to have greater ease in letting go of the things that cannot be changed.
It feels good to surround yourself with things that are living. Are there ways that you can bring more life into your home? Flowers? Plants? As our worlds shift post breakup, there are often things that are hanging around us with which we no longer have a connection. Can you dispose of things that are not alive to you?
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