Changing Hairdressers

340 Marbles 

    The aftershock of a breakup shakes areas that seem to be unrelated to the epicenter. The seismic upheaval sends ripples through many areas of life.  For me, one of these areas is my hairdresser.  I’ve had the same hairdresser for about eight years. She’s a friend of Ex-man’s brother and his partner.  Our sons have grown into friends.  Yet when I think of going to see her now, it makes me uneasy.  I don’t want to partake in the “he said, she said”.  I don’t want the questions about what happened.  I want to opt out and change hairdressers. 
    Admittedly, I’m not the best client as I tend to go as long as possible between cuts and so far, color hasn’t been an issue; I’ve stuck with my regular color (no “blondage” for me) and good genes have kept the grays away.  Yet the idea of changing hairdressers isn’t to be taken lightly.  Most women feel that switching a regular hairdresser (or seeing another one on the side) is akin to being a tress adulteress.  I’m feeling a bit guilty, but I need to move forward and sometimes that means moving away from the web that connects me to Ex-man.  It's time for change.
    I decide to write my hairdresser a note, thanking her for the years of service and explaining that I needed a change, it wasn't her- it was me,  and didn’t want to her to be my default “hairapist.” Then I dropped it off at her salon which is right by my work.  Now all I have to do is find another amazing hairdresser.

Could you be conscious of the areas in your life that keep you connected to your past life with your ex?  Some of these areas may be necessary connections (children, family, joint friends) but others may not support your moving into your new life.  Can you let go of he ones that don't support you?