6 Marbles
A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.
Mark Twain
Alan Huffman, author of We’re with Nobody wrote, “Truth is like pregnancy in that it’s either yes or no. It’s a word that should never be qualified.” But we do qualify the truth. These days, truth seems to be something to which you can attach a possessive pronoun so it becomes, “her truth” or “his truth.” For example, in marble speak, this blog has been my truth in relation to a breakup yet if you were to ask Ex-man his truth, he would have an entirely different set of marbles.
The reality of breakups and anything that tends to polarize two people is that “the whole truth and nothing but the truth” is often no-man’s land somewhere in the middle of the two camps. The truth can be the land under dispute by the opposing parties -who’s telling the truth when the stories are different and both claim to be non-fiction? For the answer to that question, I’ll turn to fiction,“Many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view.” (Yep, Star Wars - nerd girl strikes again.)
When the Dalai Lama was asked how he managed to live with the Chinese occupancy of his homeland without feeling bitterness, he answered that the Chinese were his "sacred friends" - they forced him to grow outside his comfort zone and become someone he wouldn't otherwise have become. What I know of Ex-man is that he is one of my sacred friends.
In marble 362 I wrote that, “I haven’t had the time or distance to pull back and hold the relationship up to the light to see what shines through.” So what is the underlying truth that shines through these marbles now that I have had some time and as much distance as possible? I chose a great father for my kids but not a great partner for me. Now I am free to make choices that will create the life that I want.
What are the truths you know about your past relationship? What is the truth of where you are now?
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