152 Marbles
My youngest son asked me today, “What does conflict mean?” I was busy in the kitchen and I answered him, “It’s when two people don’t get along.” Then I thought for a nanosecond and said, “Actually, it’s could also be a clash between two countries, or two different belief systems.” He thought for a moment and asked, “But what does it mean when there’s no conflict in a story?” “Ah, that means that there’s no real drama, or nothing really happens to move the story along.” I could see he was still a bit confused so I added, “Okay, it’s when there’s no clash between the good guys and the bad guys.” That, he understood.
I’ve been thinking about my blog lately, wondering what it’s been missing the further I get away from the inciting incident of the breakup. Granted, Ex-man is not the bad guy, but the more I let go, the more I get on with my life, the less conflict or “opposition that motivates or shapes the action of the plot.”
So what is the conflict inherent in 365 Marbles now? It has shifted more to an internal conflict. My house of cards collapsed, the questions are: “What do I want to build in its place?” “Did my house of cards collapse because I tried to build the foundation with its footing on a partner?” and “What would it take for me to be the third little pig that builds her house with bricks?”
Steve Jobs once said, “Your thoughts construct patterns like scaffolding in your mind. You are really etching chemical patterns. In most cases, people get stuck in those patterns, just like grooves in a record, and they never get out of them.” Now is the time to reevaluate the scaffolding.
If your breakup has been filled with high conflict, what would it take to move into a stage of low or no conflict?
Is the third little pig's house of bricks like rigid scaffolding - safe but stuck? Is there a trade-off between the perceived safety of conditioned patterning and the perceived risk of breaking out of the groove?
My youngest son asked me today, “What does conflict mean?” I was busy in the kitchen and I answered him, “It’s when two people don’t get along.” Then I thought for a nanosecond and said, “Actually, it’s could also be a clash between two countries, or two different belief systems.” He thought for a moment and asked, “But what does it mean when there’s no conflict in a story?” “Ah, that means that there’s no real drama, or nothing really happens to move the story along.” I could see he was still a bit confused so I added, “Okay, it’s when there’s no clash between the good guys and the bad guys.” That, he understood.
I’ve been thinking about my blog lately, wondering what it’s been missing the further I get away from the inciting incident of the breakup. Granted, Ex-man is not the bad guy, but the more I let go, the more I get on with my life, the less conflict or “opposition that motivates or shapes the action of the plot.”
So what is the conflict inherent in 365 Marbles now? It has shifted more to an internal conflict. My house of cards collapsed, the questions are: “What do I want to build in its place?” “Did my house of cards collapse because I tried to build the foundation with its footing on a partner?” and “What would it take for me to be the third little pig that builds her house with bricks?”
Steve Jobs once said, “Your thoughts construct patterns like scaffolding in your mind. You are really etching chemical patterns. In most cases, people get stuck in those patterns, just like grooves in a record, and they never get out of them.” Now is the time to reevaluate the scaffolding.
If your breakup has been filled with high conflict, what would it take to move into a stage of low or no conflict?
Is the third little pig's house of bricks like rigid scaffolding - safe but stuck? Is there a trade-off between the perceived safety of conditioned patterning and the perceived risk of breaking out of the groove?
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