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Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.
Carl Jung
Einstein believed that “the only real valuable thing is intuition” but because intuition is the silent voice or gentle prodding in a noisy and rambunctious world, it can be difficult to heed its message. Our intuition doesn’t come to us as a post to our Facebook wall nor do we receive it through tweets. Yet, though silent, it can be insistently persistent. Intuition can be a gentle awareness that keeps us safe and it can be the knowing of which paths we should choose to lead us to where we’d like to be.
Yet, after a breakup, intuition may be something that is questioned because most of us don’t desire discord and breakups but there we are, signing separation agreements, or splitting up assets. Was it a mistake to marry/attach to that person in the first place? Was there a niggling intuitive feeling not to become attached? Or worse, did our intuition stay silent as we chose a situation that ultimately “failed”?
Eckhart Tolle wrote, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” Does that mean if you had a breakup, you were meant to have a breakup? The breakup was exactly the medicine required to evolve your consciousness? That’s a tough pill to swallow.
Perhaps the biggest trick is coming to peace with a breakup, whether it was self-initiated, jointly decided, or, in colloquial terms, like me, you were dumped. For a lesson, I turn to the guru of acceptance Michael J Fox who says, “If you were to rush into this room right now and announce that you had struck a deal - with God, Allah, Buddha, Christ, Krishna, Bill Gates, whomever - in which the ten years since my diagnosis could be magically taken away, traded in for ten more years as the person I was before - I would, without a moment's hesitation, tell you to take a hike.” Here Fox talks about living with Parkinson’s disease, yet it could also be the litmus test of a relationship - are you a better person than you were before the relationship? Before the breakup?
What would it take to be able to say, “without a moment’s hesitation” that you wouldn’t trade the person you are now for the person you were before your breakup? If you can’t say it now, become the person who could say it.
Einstein believed that “the only real valuable thing is intuition” but because intuition is the silent voice or gentle prodding in a noisy and rambunctious world, it can be difficult to heed its message. Our intuition doesn’t come to us as a post to our Facebook wall nor do we receive it through tweets. Yet, though silent, it can be insistently persistent. Intuition can be a gentle awareness that keeps us safe and it can be the knowing of which paths we should choose to lead us to where we’d like to be.
Yet, after a breakup, intuition may be something that is questioned because most of us don’t desire discord and breakups but there we are, signing separation agreements, or splitting up assets. Was it a mistake to marry/attach to that person in the first place? Was there a niggling intuitive feeling not to become attached? Or worse, did our intuition stay silent as we chose a situation that ultimately “failed”?
Eckhart Tolle wrote, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” Does that mean if you had a breakup, you were meant to have a breakup? The breakup was exactly the medicine required to evolve your consciousness? That’s a tough pill to swallow.
Perhaps the biggest trick is coming to peace with a breakup, whether it was self-initiated, jointly decided, or, in colloquial terms, like me, you were dumped. For a lesson, I turn to the guru of acceptance Michael J Fox who says, “If you were to rush into this room right now and announce that you had struck a deal - with God, Allah, Buddha, Christ, Krishna, Bill Gates, whomever - in which the ten years since my diagnosis could be magically taken away, traded in for ten more years as the person I was before - I would, without a moment's hesitation, tell you to take a hike.” Here Fox talks about living with Parkinson’s disease, yet it could also be the litmus test of a relationship - are you a better person than you were before the relationship? Before the breakup?
What would it take to be able to say, “without a moment’s hesitation” that you wouldn’t trade the person you are now for the person you were before your breakup? If you can’t say it now, become the person who could say it.
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