179 Marbles
All Alone! Whether you like it or not,
Alone is something you’ll
Be quite a lot.
Dr Suess “Oh, The Places You’ll Go!”
I’m back at home now, post holiday and post sex with the ex. I drove most of yesterday then I went to work last night but when I got home to an empty house, I didn’t feel sad - I thoroughly enjoyed it. I’ve had so much time around people lately - my kids being out of school, my work being busy, being at the lake - it was nice to be at home with myself.
My youngest son recently had a few days when both his siblings were off doing things with their friends. He told me, “I hate being an only child” (I didn’t take this personally - parents are rarely great company). I could relate to him - I was also the youngest child and I didn’t much enjoy my solitude as I was accustomed to having siblings around. I married young and went from my parents house to a home with a husband with whom I spent a great deal of time. Then our son was born and from then on, my home has become more and more busy. It hasn’t been until recently that I’ve come to appreciate aloneness.
I know an Asian man who says, “Life is easy until you have to deal with other people.” Similarly, I sometimes feel that life would be easier if I lived in a cave with room service but the constant bumping up against others is what makes life challenging. As Goethe wrote, “Talents are best nurtured in solitude: character is best formed in the stormy billows of the world.” It’s the dealing with other people that builds character, allows for growth.
What I appreciated about last night was the realization that I’ve adjusted to Ex-man not being in my home and it feels good. I did some writing, I did some reading, and all in perfect undisturbed silence. All alone! And it turns out that I like it.
How are you feeling about your X not being in your space? A breakup can be an invitation to welcome more into your life. What would you like to have more of?
All Alone! Whether you like it or not,
Alone is something you’ll
Be quite a lot.
Dr Suess “Oh, The Places You’ll Go!”
I’m back at home now, post holiday and post sex with the ex. I drove most of yesterday then I went to work last night but when I got home to an empty house, I didn’t feel sad - I thoroughly enjoyed it. I’ve had so much time around people lately - my kids being out of school, my work being busy, being at the lake - it was nice to be at home with myself.
My youngest son recently had a few days when both his siblings were off doing things with their friends. He told me, “I hate being an only child” (I didn’t take this personally - parents are rarely great company). I could relate to him - I was also the youngest child and I didn’t much enjoy my solitude as I was accustomed to having siblings around. I married young and went from my parents house to a home with a husband with whom I spent a great deal of time. Then our son was born and from then on, my home has become more and more busy. It hasn’t been until recently that I’ve come to appreciate aloneness.
I know an Asian man who says, “Life is easy until you have to deal with other people.” Similarly, I sometimes feel that life would be easier if I lived in a cave with room service but the constant bumping up against others is what makes life challenging. As Goethe wrote, “Talents are best nurtured in solitude: character is best formed in the stormy billows of the world.” It’s the dealing with other people that builds character, allows for growth.
What I appreciated about last night was the realization that I’ve adjusted to Ex-man not being in my home and it feels good. I did some writing, I did some reading, and all in perfect undisturbed silence. All alone! And it turns out that I like it.
How are you feeling about your X not being in your space? A breakup can be an invitation to welcome more into your life. What would you like to have more of?
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