172 Marbles
I have a crush on a girl whom I work with (for those who haven’t read the opening pages, I’m one of those people who are attracted to people of both genders). I know I still have plenty o’marbles left, so I’m treating this as an interesting exercise as to what makes her attractive. Perhaps by analyzing those characteristics, I can learn something about what I require in a relationship. Here goes . . .
Firstly, she is incredibly lovely to look at. She has eyes that sparkle and she has an internal glow that radiates in her face and her smile. Secondly, nothing fazes her – she takes everything in stride. She is a yoga teacher and that sense of calm seems to be more than surface deep (I also practice yoga, but it is in an effort to tap into my internal sense of calm and give my external drama queen a break). Thirdly, she seems to be able to intuitively know what I need before I even know what I need. This is incredibly attractive to me because whenever my needs were on Ex-man’s radar, he backed away from them. Lastly, she has an incredibly adventurous spirit – she likes to travel and I don’t think there’s many new experiences that she’d decline. She approaches everything with a beginner’s mind. In short, she is everything that Ex-man wasn’t and after my tryst with Ex-man ten marbles ago, it feels good to put him in my past and wonder what else is possible?
All marbles aside, when an attraction occurs, it doesn’t always signify a need to pursue a relationship. An attraction always tells me that there is some sort of a potential connection with a person and usually that connection leads to a friendship. In this case, I’ll take it as a lesson on the qualities that I find attractive so when it’s time for me to enter a new relationship, I can be more clear about my desires.
The world is filled with beautiful, fun, and open people. Have you had any post breakup attractions/crushes? If so, what are the qualities that you find attractive? Is it possible that those qualities could be developed in yourself?
Firstly, she is incredibly lovely to look at. She has eyes that sparkle and she has an internal glow that radiates in her face and her smile. Secondly, nothing fazes her – she takes everything in stride. She is a yoga teacher and that sense of calm seems to be more than surface deep (I also practice yoga, but it is in an effort to tap into my internal sense of calm and give my external drama queen a break). Thirdly, she seems to be able to intuitively know what I need before I even know what I need. This is incredibly attractive to me because whenever my needs were on Ex-man’s radar, he backed away from them. Lastly, she has an incredibly adventurous spirit – she likes to travel and I don’t think there’s many new experiences that she’d decline. She approaches everything with a beginner’s mind. In short, she is everything that Ex-man wasn’t and after my tryst with Ex-man ten marbles ago, it feels good to put him in my past and wonder what else is possible?
All marbles aside, when an attraction occurs, it doesn’t always signify a need to pursue a relationship. An attraction always tells me that there is some sort of a potential connection with a person and usually that connection leads to a friendship. In this case, I’ll take it as a lesson on the qualities that I find attractive so when it’s time for me to enter a new relationship, I can be more clear about my desires.
The world is filled with beautiful, fun, and open people. Have you had any post breakup attractions/crushes? If so, what are the qualities that you find attractive? Is it possible that those qualities could be developed in yourself?
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