166 Marbles
"Hearts will never be made practical until they are made unbreakable."
Tinman (Wizard of Oz)
Integrity is often the first thing to go when a relationship dissolves. This results in actions and speech that is less than optimal. Because of this, I know many people that go into hating an ex once they are no longer together. On the positive side, this can lead to being repelled by an ex and moving on with life more easily.
"Hearts will never be made practical until they are made unbreakable."
Tinman (Wizard of Oz)
Integrity is often the first thing to go when a relationship dissolves. This results in actions and speech that is less than optimal. Because of this, I know many people that go into hating an ex once they are no longer together. On the positive side, this can lead to being repelled by an ex and moving on with life more easily.
This has never really happened to me post breakup. Sure, initially I was angry at Ex-man (more hurt by the perceived rejection) but as time went on, most of that burnt off and I remembered the love. What I’m aware of now is that I don’t have to deny or be ashamed of the fact that I still love him even though it “didn’t work out.” Furthermore, I’m not doing anything wrong by continuing to love him.
I’ve often judged myself for not getting the major hate on post relationship breakup. I now believe that choosing to love unconditionally (i.e. not only based on the condition of us being together), it doesn’t mean that I’m stupid. Nor does it mean that Ex-man is right for me. More importantly, by accepting the way in which my Piscean heart loves, I learn to love myself unconditionally.
My friend Rayana* recently told me, “You’re confusing coping well with having cleared the emotions around your breakup.” Perhaps she’s right but what I notice is that despite writing 365 breakup marbles, less energy is focused on what I had and more energy is focused on moving on with my life by inviting what I want.
I’ve heard it said that, “It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye." I’m not willing to wait for forever but perhaps it will take more than 200 Marbles to completely say good-bye…
How do you feel about your ex? If you strongly dislike/hate him/her, could it be that this is your way of letting go and getting on with your life? If you still love him/her, could it be that you can still let go and get on with your life? Is it possible that these categories of love or hate are not mutually exclusive?
I’ve often judged myself for not getting the major hate on post relationship breakup. I now believe that choosing to love unconditionally (i.e. not only based on the condition of us being together), it doesn’t mean that I’m stupid. Nor does it mean that Ex-man is right for me. More importantly, by accepting the way in which my Piscean heart loves, I learn to love myself unconditionally.
My friend Rayana* recently told me, “You’re confusing coping well with having cleared the emotions around your breakup.” Perhaps she’s right but what I notice is that despite writing 365 breakup marbles, less energy is focused on what I had and more energy is focused on moving on with my life by inviting what I want.
I’ve heard it said that, “It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye." I’m not willing to wait for forever but perhaps it will take more than 200 Marbles to completely say good-bye…
How do you feel about your ex? If you strongly dislike/hate him/her, could it be that this is your way of letting go and getting on with your life? If you still love him/her, could it be that you can still let go and get on with your life? Is it possible that these categories of love or hate are not mutually exclusive?
No comments:
Post a Comment