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Why
Just ask the donkey in me
To speak to the donkey in you,
When I have so many other beautiful animals
And brilliant colored birds inside
That are all longing to say something wonderful
And exciting to your heart?...
Just ask the donkey in me
To speak to the donkey in you,
When I have so many other beautiful animals
And brilliant colored birds inside
That are all longing to say something wonderful
And exciting to your heart?...
~ Hafiz translated by Daniel Ladinsky
Hafiz is one of my favorite poets and although he lived 700 years ago, the lines of his poems touch something that is eternal. This particular poem is how I felt being with Ex-man. I knew that he had such brilliance within him, as I do in me, but when we related to each other, it was often only our stubborn idiot donkeys that would be taking over the conversations.
Why this happened is a bit of a mystery to me. Some people say it is because we were the wrong pairing of astrological signs. In China they say you should never attempt to pair two people born under the year of the fire-horse. A numerologist once told me our numbers weren’t well suited. I’ve also been told that we were similar in the areas we should have been different and different in the areas where we should have been similar. The bottom line is that it didn’t work out; Our donkeys didn’t get along.
I’ve seen other couples who manage to navigate better: When one of them brings their donkey out, the other one brings out their peacock and before you know it, the partner's donkey turns into a peacock too. It’s a beautiful thing to watch and a good skill to learn. So in my next relationship, only one of us at a time is allowed to be an ass.
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