75 Marbles
Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.
Richard Bach
I was talking to a friend today about her boss. Her boss is like a hurricane - predictably unpredictable, tempestuous, and destructive. I’ve heard tales that make me question how she can maintain a good career whilst carving a swath of devastation in her wake.
Luckily my friend is getting a new boss when she starts work on Monday (her boss got a promotion). Yet even on the weekend, she was telling me stories about her soon-to-be-old boss. As I was listening, I noticed myself getting annoyed at the same old stories. Nothing the boss does surprises me and the fact is, soon my friend won’t have to worry about her boss - soon she’ll have a new reality.
I got curious with myself as I knew I had one of those tip-of-the-iceburg annoyances. Something underneath the surface needed awareness. What about my friend telling those stories bothered me? I’m usually fairly patient with friends and I try to be in allowance their stories (even when they’re reruns). Then it hit me again, as it did in Marble 151.
I still do the same thing. I tell re-run stories about Ex-man. Stories about his passive aggressive behavior, stories about how annoying he can be when dealing with our kids, stories about how cheap he can be. The fact is, it’s an old story and I’m getting stuck watching the reruns. Why do I do that? When will I let it go?
Sure, I have to deal with Ex-man from time to time regarding the kids but I have a choice to get hooked into our differing points of view or I can just accept that he is who he is. End of story.
I’m not there anymore. He’s in my past. Now what do I want to create?
Do you tell stories about your ex that are nothing but variations of the old theme? Can you unhook from the storytelling?
Richard Bach
I was talking to a friend today about her boss. Her boss is like a hurricane - predictably unpredictable, tempestuous, and destructive. I’ve heard tales that make me question how she can maintain a good career whilst carving a swath of devastation in her wake.
Luckily my friend is getting a new boss when she starts work on Monday (her boss got a promotion). Yet even on the weekend, she was telling me stories about her soon-to-be-old boss. As I was listening, I noticed myself getting annoyed at the same old stories. Nothing the boss does surprises me and the fact is, soon my friend won’t have to worry about her boss - soon she’ll have a new reality.
I got curious with myself as I knew I had one of those tip-of-the-iceburg annoyances. Something underneath the surface needed awareness. What about my friend telling those stories bothered me? I’m usually fairly patient with friends and I try to be in allowance their stories (even when they’re reruns). Then it hit me again, as it did in Marble 151.
I still do the same thing. I tell re-run stories about Ex-man. Stories about his passive aggressive behavior, stories about how annoying he can be when dealing with our kids, stories about how cheap he can be. The fact is, it’s an old story and I’m getting stuck watching the reruns. Why do I do that? When will I let it go?
Sure, I have to deal with Ex-man from time to time regarding the kids but I have a choice to get hooked into our differing points of view or I can just accept that he is who he is. End of story.
I’m not there anymore. He’s in my past. Now what do I want to create?
Do you tell stories about your ex that are nothing but variations of the old theme? Can you unhook from the storytelling?
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